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Happiness, it’s all about decision! – Arthur Unknown

Published August 12, 2017 by gigiwellness28

A 92 years old short and very well-presented man, who takes great care in his appearance, is moving into a retirement home today.

His wife of 70 years has recently passed away and he is obliged to leave his home.

After waiting several hours in the retirement home lobby, he was told that his room is ready.

As he uses his cane to walk slowly to the elevator, the Administrator describes his small room to him, including the sheet hung at the window which serves as a curtain.
“I like it very much”, he says, with the enthusiasm of an 8 year old boy who has just been given a new puppy.
“You haven’t even seen the room yet, hang on a moment, we are almost there.”
“That has nothing to do with it “, he replies.  “Happiness is something I choose in advance.  Whether or not I like the room does not depend on the furniture, or the décor.  Rather it depends on how I decide to see it.
“I have already decided in my mind that I like my room.  It is a decision I take every morning when I wake up.
“I can choose to spend my day in bed listing all the difficulties I have with the parts of my body that no longer work very well, or I can get up and give thanks to Heaven for those parts that are still in working order.
“Every day is a gift, and as long as I can open my eyes, I will focus on the new day, and all the happy memories that I have built up during my life.”
“Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw in later life what you have deposited along the way. “
So, my advice to you is to deposit all the happiness you can in your bank account of memories.
Remember these simple guidelines for happiness:
1. Free your heart from hate.
2. Free your mind from worry.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.

Parting with our Dwarf Bunnies

Published January 2, 2014 by gigiwellness28

It has brought back a lot of sad memories while reading Janet’s Notebook – Postcard from Singapore: one DEAD chicken in August 2012 (I started to write this post since then, but I had never finished it, because I found it really difficult to go back to those few days, but I think I should fulfil my promise to Janet and finish this post).  You may not be able to feel and/or understand my heartbreak, but here it goes:

Several years ago, our home had 2 addition members – a girl and a boy dwarf bunnies – they were 7 weeks old when I got them from my colleagues.  The kids loved them dearly and always cuddled them like little babies.  Within a very short period of time, the kids decided to name them Puffy and Fluffy.

Couple of years later, we moved to a stand alone house, where we were able to station their house in a semi-enclosed area and the kids had more space to play with them.  They had “walked” out from their area twice and hide underneath the patio once, but they always stayed there until we pick them up.  Then there were reports of fox appearances around our area, since the local council notified us they were going to leave some baits around, we did not pay too much notice.

I still remember clearly it was a sunny Saturday morning, I went to feed them after I finished my breakfast; when I walked out from the house, I felt something was not right, the fence was not locked and it was not fully closed.  The bunnies were not there, I called their names but they did not come out; I looked at all the usual places, I still couldn’t see them.  I was so worried and shock <– actually I can still feel how I felt while typing this post 😦

My husband and I did a carpet search and less than 1/2 hour later, my husband called out, “Found one!”  It was covered by some dirts at the edge of our garden bed.  Then another 1/2 hour passed, we were not able to find another one.  Since we had took them to the Vet for the past few years, I decided to call the Vet to check how should we handle the situation.  Finally we decided to deliver that body to the Vet, so she could examine it, because we wanted to know the cause of death.  I think the most difficult thing was to tell the kids.

On Sunday morning, the Vet confirmed most likely the bunny passed from heart attack because there were no visible injuries; and with our description of where did we find it, the Vet believed they were taken away from us by fox.  We’re so sure it was 1 fox, because it left one bunny behind and used dirt to cover its body – I have to say, it’s such a clever animal, because there were no other trace that the garden bed had been disturbed, the pathway did not even have any single trace of dirt left behind; if there were more than 1 fox, both bunnies would have take away physically.

The Vet was so nice, she did not only waive us the examination charges; but also allowed us to use the clinic as mid-point for the Pets Cremation Company to pick the body up and drop the urn back, so we could collect it from the clinic.  I asked the Vet to confirm if it was the girl bunny (Fluffy) or the boy bunny (Puffy) body; however, I must have deliberately forgotten about the finding, so I did not need to lie to the kids.

They were about 5 years old.  Since then, I did not allow any more pets except few existing Gold Fish, because I found the experience was way too stressful for me to swallow.

They were not just dwarf bunnies, they were not just pets, they were part of our family members.  And I still miss them dearly after all these years.

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What do you get from a Bowl of Plain Rice?

Published February 10, 2013 by gigiwellness28

About 20 years ago, on a late Spring evening, a young man was pacing up and down outside a little self serve café, he finally walked in the café timidly as the café was also empty.

He went to the counter and said, “Excuse me, I would like to order a bowl of rice please?”

The young couple, who started this café not long ago, was a bit disappointed when they realised he was not going to order other dishes,  but still filled up a bowl of rice for him.

When the young man paid for the bowl of rice, he asked, “Excuse me, can I use those sauces on the side counter?”

The female owner replied with a friendly smile, “Sure, go help yourself, they are free of charge!”

A bowl of rice with sauce

The young man sat down to eat his rice with sauces.  When he was half way, he went to order another bowl of rice.

The male owner said, “One bowl is definitely not enough, I’ll fill it up a bit more this time.”

“Oh no,” the young man replied, “it’s for my lunch, I’ll take it to college tomorrow.”

The male owner thought the young man must be struggling financially, so he could only afford a bowl of plain rice for his meal.  Out of sympathy, he decided to add a spoonful of their special mince meat plus a tea leaf egg at the bottom of the bowl, then filled up the bowl with rice – you would have been fooled by the take away bowl and thought it’s just rice.

His wife saw what he did and understood he wanted to help the young man, but she didn’t understand why he hid the meat and egg under the rice; until the husband explained, “If he saw we’ve added the other food to the rice, he might think we are pitying him, that would hurt his self-esteem.  He might feel ashamed and wouldn’t come back again.  If he went to another store and just ate rice, how would he have enough energy to study?”

“You are such a good man, honey, always considering others’ feelings.”

“Well, if I was not good, would you still marry me?”

The young couple felt so happy to be able to help.

When the young man finished his bowl of rice and came over to pick up the heavy weighted take away rice, he couldn’t help but look at the owners with question marks all over his face.

“Work hard in your study!  We’ll see you tomorrow!”  the owner waved good bye to the young man, hoping he will return to their café tomorrow.  The young man started to tear up, but he didn’t want the young couple to notice.

From that evening onwards, apart from long holiday, the young man would come to this little café to order 2 bowls of rice, 1 for dinner and 1 for lunch.  The owners had decided to hide different types of meat under his take away bowl of rice.  This had became a little unspoken secret between the 3 of them.

The couple had also decided to keep the same price for the young man’s bowl of rice.  The 3 of them would chat about his study and life, a special bond had formed, until the young man graduated a few years later.

About 20 years later, the couple, who were now in their late 40’s still ran the same little self serve café, received the Council Notification of demolition of illegal constructions in the area.  With inflation over the years and their limited saving, as they supported their son to study abroad, they wouldn’t be able to run their little café in the same area, to serve their regular customers; but had to start everything all over again, when they were almost 50.  Facing the possibilities of unemployment in their age and all the uncertainties ahead of them, they didn’t know what to do.

While they were trying to pick themselves up, a suited man came into the café.  He didn’t place an order, he just said to them, “Hello, I am the Assistant General Manager of xxx Co. Ltd., our CEO told me to invite you to run a self serve café in our newly built office building.  All the facilities and food will be provided by our company, you just need to bring your cooking skills.  Your café and our company will share the profit 50/50.”

“Who is your CEO?  Why does he treat us with such good favour?  We haven’t known any important people like that in our lives!”

“All I know is both of you had treated our CEO very well and he loves eating your café’s mince and tea leaf egg with a big bowl of rice. You’ll need to ask him for other details when he comes.”

The couple looked at each other with a puzzled look on their faces.  Later on, a man in a suit came in the café, he greeted the couple and thanked them.  He told them he was the young man, who only ordered 2 bowls of rice every evening, 1 for dinner and 1 for lunch.  He also said if it was not their continuous encouragements and the unspoken secret, he wouldn’t have been able to complete his study and definitely wouldn’t be able to achieve what he has achieved and became a big company’s CEO.  The couple was so pleased and amazed with what he had offered them.

They kept catching up until it was time to head home.  The CEO stood up, said his goodbye and right before he stepped out from the café, he turned around, gave the couple a deep bow and said, “Work hard in running the café, our company relies on your help.  We’ll see you tomorrow!”

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A Letter from A Parent

Published July 27, 2012 by gigiwellness28

My dear child,

The day that you see me old and my body starts to wither, have patience and try to understand me.

If I get dirty when eating… if I can’t dress… have patience.

Do you remember the hours I spent teaching it to you?

If, when I speak to you, I repeat the same things thousand and one times… don’t interrupt me… listen to me.

When you were small, I had to read to you thousand and one times the same story until you got to sleep.

When I don’t want to have a shower, neither shame me nor scold me.

Remember when I had to chase you with thousand excuses I invented, in order to persuade you to bath.

When you see my ignorance on new technologies… give me the necessary time and not look at me with your mocking smile…

I taught you how to do many things properly… to eat, to dress, to confront life.

When at some moment I lose the memory or the thread of our conversation… let me have the necessary time to remember… and if I can’t do it, don’t feel annoyed…

because the most important thing is not my conversation, but surely to be with you and to have you listening to me…

If ever I don’t want to eat, don’t force me.  I know well when I need to and when not.

When my tired legs don’t allow me walk… give me your hand…

the same way I did when you took your first steps.

Some day you will discover that, despite my mistakes, I always wanted the best thing for you and that I tried to prepare the way for you…

You must not feel sad or angry when seeing me near you.  You must stay with me, understand me, help me…

as I did it when you started living.

Try to understand that my age is not lived but survived.  Walk with me when I reach the end of my journey, with love and patience.

I will pay you with a smile and by the immense love I always have for you.

I love you, my child.

 

 

A Small Gesture – 2

Published July 24, 2012 by gigiwellness28

Have you ever heard of something similar to “The Drive Thru Difference”?

The concept is simple… when buying a meal at a drive thru, ask the attendant if you can also pay for the person behind you.  When that person picks up their meal, they’ll find out it’s free, courtesy of a postcard note from someone friendly:

Hi,

You don’t know me but I’ve just paid for your order.  No gimmicks – it’s just something I felt like doing.  I heard about people doing things for others, they call it “the drive thru difference.”  Maybe you’ll feel like doing it for someone else!

I hope this encourages you today!

Signed,

The friend in front of you

One of our Pastors told us once that, from time to time, he would pay for another table when he’s in a Cafe, that’s the similar idea.

At time when people are doing it tough and stressed out with daily life, the “Drive Thru Difference” might just be the lift that makes someone’s day!

Let’s learn to bless others when we’re being blessed by God 🙂

A Small Gesture – 1

Published July 24, 2012 by gigiwellness28

On a walking trip up through a little town one spring, a hiker stopped by a small farm house for a drink of cool spring water.

A little girl answered his knock and instead of water bought him a glass of fresh milk.

When he asked her, “How much do I owe you?”  She replied, “You don’t owe me anything at all.  My mother taught us never to accept anything for doing someone a kindness.”

After a short friendly visit, he went on his way.

Some years later, a young lady went to a hospital as a patient and needed surgery.  One of the doctors was called in for the consultation, when he heard the name of the town she came from, he rose and went down the hall of the hospital.

He recognized her at once.  The doctor requested the business office to pass her final bill to him for approval.  When the bill came to his office, he looked at  it, then wrote something on it and sent it to her room.

When her bill was brought into the room, she found across its face was written in a bold hand, “Paid in full with one glass of milk!

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An act of goodness that you do today, can come back to you or someone that you love when you are not expecting it.

If you do not see this act of goodness returned, at least you will have made a difference in this world.

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